Well, I am on to Stage 3 in the process of not coloring my hair anymore. Stage 3 appears to be when the line between the gray and the blonde gets a little too pronounced, and you have to decide how to blend it a little better.
My choice was to go back to the hairdresser and ask him to lighten up the blonde a little more. In my mind, I had this vision of him taking the color out and leaving me with beautiful silvery white streaks that would naturally blend with what is rapidly becoming my gray hair. It was a nice vision! Of course, that isn’t exactly how it turned out! In fact, it doesn’t look like that beautiful vision at all!
He did what I asked. He took the color out a little more by running some bleach and foils through my hair (Note to self: wasn’t the decision to go gray about NOT making such a fuss???) In any case, the color did come out. But instead of having silvery white streaks, my hair now looks buttercup yellow! YES, YELLOW!
As I sat in the chair, covered in that black hairdresser cape, and stared into the mirror in front of me, I can honestly say I was a bit shocked at the color. (P.S. I think anyone looking at my hair right now will be shocked.) But, I took a deep breath and reminded myself of my goal. This is a PROCESS — a JOURNEY — and sometimes that takes a little while to get used to. So I came home and immediately went to my bathroom to try and assess the damage. I will be speaking at a conference in San Diego next week, and I really need to decide if I will have to pack a hat!
Now in all fairness, the lighting in my bathroom is not great. It does lend itself to being a bit dramatic. In addition, my son recently painted my bathroom a new, bright and uplifting color – soft buttercream. What I am trying to say is that there is a glow to my bathroom. Still, nothing could have prepared me for what I saw when I looked in the mirror.
My hair actually BLENDED WITH the yellow wall behind me! Yes, my hair was completely camouflaged!! You know those eye tests they give you where you’re supposed to find the numbers in the midst of those colored dots? If you focus your eyes for a moment, the image appears? That was me in my bathroom mirror!!
I paused for a moment, letting my eyes adjust to the image. My face stood out in very stark contrast to the buttercream halo surrounding me, and the mirror registered the shock on my face!
“Okay,” I thought. “Take a deep breath and find the ‘silver’ lining here.”
Well, the truth was there was an actual silver lining! The gray hair near my scalp created a perfect outline to the camouflaged yellow!
“You can do better than that,” I chided myself. “Find the good in this, and let yourself get used to it.”
And so my list began:
I have always liked buttercream??
I look more blonde than gray??
If Gwen Stefani can wear Indian braids on national television during The Voice, my hair can be yellow for a while!
And there it was — the excuse that would allow me to continue — “There are always people in the world whose hair will look crazier than this!!”
So, here goes Stage 3 — buttercream yellow with a touch of gray! Given the right background, I can be camouflaged and no one will be able to see me anyway!